Polarity Coaching

The 3 cornerstones of Polarity Coaching

Polarity coaching focuses on three main elements that intertwine with each other to create more freedom in you

My coaching style

I offer a directive, solution-based and challenging style of coaching. I will tell you a bit about these 3 styles

My coaching Philosophy

"Being of value to others is ‘teaching them how to fish’ instead of ‘giving them fish’"

A coach does not solve your problems or challenges for you. A coach merely mirrors back to you what you show them. He facilitates your personal growth and shows you different doors. You have to choose your own door and walk through it yourself.

"My view of people is that we are evolutionary, instinctive animals who evolved to think"

We did this after a long time of just having instinct & emotions. This time was much longer than the time we’ve had our rational brain. Our rational mind and beliefs are not all that make us who we are. We do not 100% control our instinct & emotions with our rational mind, but we can become more aware and skilled in collaborating with them.

"I am down to earth and also open to ‘spirituality’."

Spirituality simply means finding meaning, purpose and a sense of belonging in life. It is not about being floaty or religion. I am agnostic and therefore do not have any problem with religion though. I try to have an open mind to multiple perspectives as much as possible.

Science & esoteric knowledge are both useful and can have great synergy. Sexual polarity is a good example of a more spiritual concept that is also explainable in evolutionary psychology. More importantly, it is something directly experiential to discover in your daily life, regardless of which way you want to approach it.

My Professional background

I have a bachelor degree in Applied Psychology. I specialized in coaching, education & training in the fields of personal development, dating and relationships. I especially like the field of Evolutionary Psychology. Even though I am a psychologist, it is important to understand that I do not give therapy and my coaching service is not inherently meant to be therapeutic.

I also have a degree in Fitness & Health from CIOS Netherlands (“Central Institute for Sports Instructors Training"). Here, I specialized in strength & endurance training.

My personal background

In order to have a good coaching connection that will bring YOU the most value, it’s important that I do not share too much details of my personal life with you. I will tell you that I’ve been through my own challenges in childhood, adolescence & adult life. Especially when it comes to finding my purpose, my love life and my authentic self.

I worked hard on myself to get to where I am. For this to happen, I was blessed with friends who wanted to learn and grow in similar ways and develop similar skills. I shared a journey with them. I also worked with professionals when I went through difficult times. I am still learning and developing myself every day. We all do, because learning and personal development is a continual process.

I am not a ‘guru’ who has all the answers and I will not promise you gold. It is not about me ‘teaching or showing you my way’. Nobody is exactly the same and different things work for different people. I am confident that my experience & knowledge can be of value to you in finding your own way & achieving your goals. You already have the power within you. Together, we are going to ignite it!

Get a free intake!

The free intake is about meeting each other. You can tell me the things you want to work on and if you decide to go for it you can choose a coaching plan.

If you decide not to continue then there is no charge and I wish you well.

Get a free intake here!

I will contact you to schedule a free intake session of 45 minutes.

If you have any questions for me; leave me a message below and I will reply as soon as possible.

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Authenticity, Love life and Purpose. The three cornerstones of Polarity Coaching

Finding your true self. Being the best version of yourself. Self-esteem, self-love & self-respect. Setting boundaries and honoring your thoughts, feelings & behaviors. Trusting yourself and self-acceptance. Finding, respecting and embodying your personal core values. Self-expression. Improving your single life & your relationship(s). Understanding (and dealing with) women. Sexual polarity; masculine polarity & feminine polarity. Evolutionary psychology and behavior. Figuring out your preferred partner qualities. Meeting new people and developing social skills. Supporting you in finding your purpose. Setting and achieving goals. Discovering your vision and direction in life. Your career, hobbies & passions. Breaking your goals into (small) steps. Creating routines and developing discipline. Discovering your talents and acquiring skills.

A description of directive coaching. A description of solution-based coaching. It is a style of coaching where the coach takes a more educational & instructive approach. It offers expertise, specific guidance, advice & direction to the person being coached. Is to facilitate your self-discovery & growth by offering practical suggestions, tools and techniques, based on my professional knowledge and experience. If you want, I can give you assignments or little challenges in daily life. It is a future-focused style where the coach emphasizes people to achieve their goals by concentrating on their strengths, resources & solutions, rather than dwelling on problems, analyzing their root causes or trauma. Is to facilitate you to adopt a forward-looking, optimistic & empowering perspective that enables you to focus on your goals and taking meaningful steps toward achieving them. And to refer you to a different professional if you are not yet at a stage where you are able to do this.

A description of Challenging coaching. What is provocative coaching. It is a unique & unconventional coaching style where the coach combines elements of humor, exaggeration and sometimes deliberate challenges to people’s beliefs, assumptions & thought patterns, supporting the gaining of new perspectives and confronting self-limiting beliefs. Is to create an environment where you can explore your thoughts and beliefs, by sometimes being unconventional, thought-provoking or "off-the-cuff" in positive and constructive ways. This enables you to break free from self-imposed limitations, to find your own vision & transform beliefs.